Is this all that there is

This is a question people ask themselves often. It is probably most often asked when they are feeling doomed, depressed or simply frustrated.

I was spending Thanksgiving with dear life long friends and their spouses and kids. We were discussing marriage, one of our group had just survived a nasty divorce, I was on my way to a wedding of my favorite cousin, and there were several married couples of various ages, and tenure in their marriage. My ever practical no nonsense host said that once you have made your choices, as long as there is nothing seriously wrong (abuse, addiction or adultery) that even though someone else may look better it is just more reasonable to make the best of what you have.

Someone I am really close to just let me know that he is headed towards divorce. His wife is simply a skank who has been carrying on relationship after relationship in a very public way in the health club that their entire family belongs to. She clearly has a hole in her soul, as they have two fantastic children (both girls) but she is willing to give them up to be the town skank. Sleeping around while in a marriage with young children is horrible, and she didn't even have the decency to be discreet. My favorite quote is "I love my children and all, but I have to do something for my self." This from a woman who gets up at 4:30 in the morning to work out, then goes directly to work, returns home in time to grab the kids and their homework, and goes back to the club to work out a second time and then brings the kids home in enough time to go to bed. WHEN ISN'T SHE DOING SOMETHING FOR HER SELF.

She has the NERVE to have a defense, "My husband was mean to me." Ok, fine, I do not condone being mean and verbally abusive. However, you then say something, or leave, you don't just become the town skank. The best part is that her formerly upstanding parents (very mad at their other child for being with someone who was divorced) DEFEND HER SLUTTISH WAYS. The blind devotion is insane. I am happy that my friend will be getting away from her and her family.